Be fanatically positive and militantly optimistic. If something is not to your liking, change your liking.
When you reach a state in which you feel you are in control of your life and the actions you can make to influence others, it’s a good moment to try and focus your abilities towards sharing your positivism among your friends. If not for true altruism, then at least be motivated by the fact that what you give will come back to you amplified.
It’s like karma. Here are 10 ways in which you can try to make others see the beautiful colors of life from the same angle as you:
1. Be a good listener
In order to be able to understand what people around are dealing with, what their problems are, their concerns or their fears, you have to learn how to really listen. Many people are so absorbed by their own person, that even if they are having a conversation with others, they don’t realize that in fact they are having a monologue and not a dialogue.
For these kind of people it get to the point where they don’t know why the people around them don’t want them near anymore.
People who are too egocentric generally just make others feel uncomfortable and at one point they start to be very annoying and an basically unpleasant company. Don’t be one of them, and if you realize you already have some leanings towards this kind of character, just stop and consider actually listening next time you are with someone.
2. Comfort them
When a friend is feeling low try to do everything that it is in your power to cheer them up. The simplest way is to show that you understand them and have empathy towards their problem. Be there for them.
3. Cook for your friends
Cooking for somebody else is an act of genuine giving.
Maybe you don’t realize that, considering that you eat at least three times every day and what you eat is actually cooked by somebody, if not by yourself. So what’s the big deal? Well, cooking and inviting others in your home to share the result of your effort is proof of caring and it has a positive effect upon the state of mind of your guests.
Participating in regular entertainment activities contributes to maintaining a constant state of relaxation. So if you have friends who don’t go to the movies, to the theater, to concerts or to stand-up comedy shows too often, who always use the excuse of not having enough time, or money, then try to organize regular nigh outs for which you don’t accept “no” for an answer.
At the end of every show you will be filled with a spurt of good energy to take home.
5. Go on a trip
At least every once in a while, you have to escape the daily routine. When not even the weekends don’t have anything special anymore, get away and take your friends with you. Run to the sea, climb a mountain, run to the countryside, go on a city break, or take a longer vacation in an exotic country if your time and budget allow it.
It doesn’t matter where you take your friends, as long as you are together having fun, it will be the best group therapy that you can have.
6. Share the joy
When you are very happy about something that happened to you, don’t retain your joy and don’t try to act indifferent to it. Instead, share your joy, tell others what made you so happy and act as a happy person: smile and be kind with others.
In exchange, you will see that people who spend time with you in those moments will be contaminated by your positive energy and behave almost exactly like you.
7. Encourage others
Almost everybody has at least one thing that they would like to do in life, but they don’t, because usually they are afraid to even try it.
But not doing things that you are yearning for can turn into heavy fails that can hunt you all your life. So if you have friends who you know that have such desires, but they hide behind different pretexts, start encouraging them to leave their excuses behind and at least give whatever it is they desire a shot. Even if this means leaving a safe but boring job, or starting an unusual hobby.
8. Praise the people around you
Because this is like a confirmation that people are on the right track. If you haven’t seen Will Smith’s movie Hancock, watch it now and you will understand how important the exclamation “Good job!” can be when you say it to somebody in a key moment. Even if they don’t excel, they become better, for sure, because they gain more trust in themselves.
9. Convince them to volunteer
Volunteering for humanitarian causes can be a very uplifting experience. Helping others is an act of kindness and care. Acknowledging this fact can have a purifying result upon your psychic. This is why you have to convince your friends to join you in this kind of activities.
Try to find time every once in a while to do stuff like this and the positive karma will come along for you and them.
10. Hug more often
Having the ability to hug is nature’s way of telling us that we can comfort each other in times of need. So don’t be stingy when it comes to hugs, it doesn't cost anything to give them, but it means a lot for the ones receiving them.
Think about these options when you want to make a good deed or cheer up a friend, or when you just want to try the happy feeling of making others feel better. Make it contagious!
Do you have some suggestions for spreading positivity? Are there any particular things you do to make yourself and those around you feel happier and more optimistic?