Some people grumble that roses have thorns; I am grateful that thorns have roses.
One of the most unproductive and basically destructive things in our life is having a pessimistic attitude when having to deal with a problem or with a bunch of problems. And it’s easy to get there, because you already have a problem and you start thinking of it. But instead of finding solutions, you focus on the negative aspects too much and before you know it, you end up feeling very low and incapable of actually dealing with the problem.
You let the problem get to you too much. When in trouble, a better approach is to make a step back, see the overview of the situation, with the good and bad aspects, acknowledge them, find a way to maximize the advantages, and solve the issue while minimizing the negative impact.
Here are some simple suggestions on what you could do to try and free your mind of negative thoughts, thoughts that can only pull you down when in fact, you need to pull yourself up from a crappy situation:
1. Take things as they come
There is a saying that goes like: when life gives you lemons, ask for tequila and salt! In translation, it’s really unproductive to wine all the time because things are not exactly the way you want them to be and to always blame other people or situations. Make the most of everything with what you have. Avoid being one of those people with rigid personalities.
Try to take things as they come and try to make the best of every situation, regardless of how challenging it may seem at first. At the end, if you manage to overcome an unfortunate condition and turn it into something better, it will only give you a very rewarding feeling. And this will definitely have a positive effect upon your state of mind.
2. Focus on the bright side of a situation
Ok, so things did not turn out just how you thought and wanted them to be, but this does not mean that there isn’t another angle from which you could try to look at the whole situation. If you only concentrate on the dark side of a circumstance, it is very likely that you will only manage to emphasize and maximize the bad things in it and this can’t be the way towards finding a solution, no matter what situation you are in.
The right attitude is to try and see the bright side and look for the good that can come out from any situation and then do your best to maximize it. It’s simple: minimize the damage and maximize the advantages. And don’t say that there aren’t any, because each coin has two sides.
3. Channel your energy on something that you enjoy
When you find yourself in a difficult situation in life and something is really bugging you, but no matter how much you think at the problem and you try to find solutions, you don’t seem to get anywhere, maybe it’s time to try to disconnect for a bit. Just for a limited period, try to get away from it and engage yourself in an activity you know you enjoy: perhaps a hobby or something that engages your mind in a different direction.
Why? Because doing things that you love, helps you charge yourself with positive and productive energy. So, if you come back later to the problem you had to solve, you might see things from a different point of view, from a better and more optimistic angle, and you could also come up with solutions that were not obvious to you before taking that mental break.
4. Listen to positive music
When you’re feeling low, listening to a good piece of positive music can help you cheer up a bit. Ok, it won’t solve all of your problems, but at least it will improve your general state of mind and this can only help when you have to find solutions in difficult situations.
5. Read inspirational books
Reading is in general a stimulative activity, both emotionally and intellectually. If you are the type of person who can find time in their schedule for it, then try looking online or go to the closest library, and once you're there, you will find an aisle dedicated to a special category: inspirational literature.
If you still haven’t discovered the magic power of this kind of reading, you should at least give it a try and see if it works for you.
6. Spend time with the dear ones
When you are in a bad emotional shape and nothing seems to make you feel better, don’t go home and isolate yourself.
Because if you do so, then chances are you will only deepen your bad mood and all your problems will suddenly be magnified. Instead, you should try to spend time with your family or friends, with the people who really care for you.
They will try to cheer you up, they will listen to you and support you and they can give you the best reality check you can get. Don’t feel bad and think that your bad mood will probably contaminate a bit the people with whom you choose to share your worries with. That’s what friends and family are for.
7. Indulge yourself
Once in a while we should all allow ourselves to just enjoy something that we consider a true delight.
Maybe for some of us this is a whole day spent at a spa center, or having a day when we allow ourselves to eat something really tasty, expensive and unhealthy, or a day spent shopping at the mall. Whatever it is that you consider pampering will definitely make you forget about the negative things and make you feel good about yourself. So, every now and then spoil yourself a bit. Leave the guilty feelings aside and just enjoy some guilty pleasures!
What is your recipe for nurturing an optimistic state of mind? Do you have any tips on how to focus on the good even when found in not so pleasant situations? Please comment below and let us know. .